When our right to space and our right to say no is constantly overrun in childhood, we have the resulting “masochistic energy pattern”. It involves the suppression of will and desire at a time when the ability to negotiate is just being developed. The body center is developed and the feelings are being explored. There is a sense of autonomy at this stage, but that autonomy is threatened. It is often misconstrued as misbehaving or disrespect. This is the stage where parents can destroy their children’s will. Children learn that what they need and want may conflict with the desires … [read more]
Archives for April 2018
Energetic Manners and The Search For Love
What do energetic manners have to do with the search for love? Because all of our energetic coping mechanisms are a result of some developmental stage in which our needs weren’t met, it stands to reason that when we are not nourished properly, we continually seek that nourishment through love and attention. We all have a right to be loved. We are hard-wired to seek communion with others in all kinds of relationships. Our basic need for connection starts right at the beginning with breast feeding and deep human attachment. After the basic right to be here is established, … [read more]
Energetic Coping Mechanisms
How is it possible that we could harbor unconscious beliefs that question our basic rights of human existence? We have the right to be here, to be loved, to have our own space, to feel safe, and to feel. If those rights do not get met in early childhood, we develop energetic coping mechanisms. Each one of those has a different look and feel. Learning to read these energetic patterns within ourselves and others is life changing. I will be covering each one in my upcoming articles. The energetic coping mechanisms correspond roughly to developmental stages in response to our … [read more]