The proverbial empath has the difficulty of distinguishing between the me and the not me on a regular basis. Sometimes they are known as Highly Sensitive People or HSP’s but there is something more about the empath than simply being sensitive. Both must work hard to understand boundary.
The empath has an innate ability to see, feel, and intuit energies of others quite easily. They often absorb those energies unbeknownst to them.
An empath often experiences things like the emotional climate of a room, the negativity of someone they are with, or the psychic overload of someone else’s thoughts. By definition, the empathic person will pick up aspects of other people and things like tuning into radio stations.
Conversely, they may also learn to blame other people’s states for their own automatic behavior and negativity.
The biggest task for the empath is to understand what belongs to them and what doesn’t when it comes to energies and negative emotions.
They can leave an encounter feeling completely drained. However, It is not just empaths who suffer from coming away feeling drained after an encounter.
Many of us who are unaware of how people use energy may be oblivious to the needy people who suck the energetic blood of others without even knowing they are doing it.
It is up to each one of us to start to sense and observe our own energy in regard to others. As skill is acquired, we may start to notice exactly what other people do energetically. This is the way to understand boundary in a way we perhaps have not realized.
Often when we think of putting up boundaries, we imagine a large force field or bubble around us.
Doing this uses imagination and visualization and is a one centered activity, namely the thinking center, and will not produce effective results for very long. How many times have we created this kind of imaginal barrier and found that it has not worked very well?
We then look to the outside for relief in terms of clearing this energy out.
There must be an understanding of the use of more than one center synchronistically to bring about actual results.
For the empath, it is especially important to learn how to be in the body with a sense of self when with others and in difficult environments.
Without this, they morph into similar resonant frequencies in which there is no distinction of self. They meld into the energies like a chameleon.
Healers, body workers and psychics must also become very skilled at this distinction of self through simultaneous activation of centers so they also do not come out drained of force. While working with clients and maintaining attention on sensation in their own body at the same time, they acquire a practice that is founded on healing techniques in which they not only serve as medium but also a catalyst.
Having a sense of self by practicing intentional attention maintained on sensation is the answer to so many of our problems. It provides literal grounding. No visualization here. It takes a degree of attention that must be built up through practice. Many people think they are experiencing sensation when in fact they are only thinking about sensation. It takes true effort to build this awareness.
Once this muscle is established, all of us, including empaths, can begin to sense more of the environment than ever before.
With a physical sense of our own body, we can start to understand the being aspects of energy and the unity and separation of self from others.
This can be a dramatic discovery for an empath who has been unduly suffering for much of his/her life. They may even know they need some kind of protection but have not had the right resources to understand the Me/ Not Me on this level. The search for remedy has been from the outside instead of an inner practice.
The Me/ Not Me phenomenon can begin to be understood on such a deep level with practice. It is possible to clearly see what other people are doing energetically in regard to us. We do not mesh with them to find that out, but sense it on an entirely different level without danger, without drain, without having to “clear’ the energy of others from us.
We create a real boundary when we are able to maintain sensation in our body which is sometimes very hard for empaths and HSP’s because one of their coping methods is to leave their body.
When things become too much, they relegate themselves to a place where they do not have to experience such sensitivity. People who suffer from chronic pain may also know this pattern.
This is how the empath gets into trouble in the first place: the meld.
The first practice I teach is how to have attention to sensation in the body. Now when someone comes back to me and says they had sensation all day or for an entire hour then I know they are not experiencing sensation. Attention must be built up.
This subtle awareness brings new light to the way we take in all impressions. Our thinking and feeling changes with sensation present and we know it. For an empath, maintaining sensation or bringing oneself back to sensation over and over as they forget is the exact solution for what they are suffering.
If they can maintain attention in this way, they will begin to understand the Me/Not Me like never before.
Have a great week.
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